Rebuilding Trust With the People You Hurt

Trust takes time

When someone has been hurt by another person's substance use, they may not be ready to trust right away. That can be hard to hear when you are working hard to change. It is also fair.

Actions speak louder than promises

The people around you have probably heard promises before. What often matters more is what they see over time: showing up when you said you would, telling the truth even when it is uncomfortable, following through on small things.

Be honest, and be specific

A sincere acknowledgment of the harm, without excuses, can be a starting point. 'I am sorry for missing your birthday and not telling you why' is different from a general apology. It shows you understand what happened.

Let them set the pace

Some people will want to talk soon. Some will need distance. Pushing for forgiveness can backfire. Respecting their pace is part of showing you have changed.

Do not forget yourself

Rebuilding trust with others includes rebuilding it with yourself. Keeping small promises to yourself, like going to an appointment or getting to bed on time, matters too.

Get support

This work is emotional. A counselor can help you think through conversations, handle guilt, and decide what to say and when.

If you are overwhelmed by shame or having thoughts of harming yourself, call or text 988 at any time.

Questions about care at Cherry Creek Treatment Center in Wichita? The admissions team is at 316-330-7126. Calling is not a commitment.